You know the feeling—that stuck-in-the-middle moment where you’re staring at two (or more) choices and wishing someone would just make it for you. Maybe it’s a big life decision. Maybe it’s something smaller. But it feels heavy, and all-consuming. Decision-making is rarely just about logic or options. More often, it’s a quiet tug-of-war between your …
You know the feeling—that stuck-in-the-middle moment where you’re staring at two (or more) choices and wishing someone would just make it for you. Maybe it’s a big life decision. Maybe it’s something smaller. But it feels heavy, and all-consuming.
Decision-making is rarely just about logic or options. More often, it’s a quiet tug-of-war between your fears, your hopes, and your desire to make the right choice. And that pressure? It can feel paralysing.
Why Is It So Hard To Make A Decision?
Because:
- Every decision comes with weight.
- You don’t want to mess up.
- You feel like the “wrong” choice could lead to regret.
But here’s something worth remembering: there are very few truly right or wrong decisions. Most are just different paths, with different sets of challenges and learning. The real question isn’t always “Which is right?”. It’s often “Which one feels more aligned with who I am?”
Let Your Values Lead the Way – to better Decision Making
One way to cut through the fog of indecision is to ask:
What choice aligns most with my values?
Values are your internal compass—your core beliefs about what matters in life. They’re the things you return to when life feels unclear. Some examples:
When you weigh a choice against your values, it becomes less about pleasing others or meeting unrealistic standards—and more about honoring yourself.
Try this:
The next time you feel stuck, pause and ask:
“Which option aligns more with the kind of person I want to be?”
The Pressure to Get It ‘Right’
Sometimes, the hardest part of choosing is the fear of failure. We feel like once we make a choice, we have to succeed with it—or else it was a mistake. But that’s a trap.
Every decision, even the ‘right’ one, comes with ups and downs. Growth, discomfort, and course corrections are part of the process. You can’t predict the outcome, but you can trust your ability to handle what comes next.
It’s Okay to Feel Uncertain
Uncertainty doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong—it just means you’re human. You don’t need to know with 100% certainty before you act. You just need enough clarity to take one small, honest step forward. If it turns out to be a detour? That’s okay too. You’re allowed to pivot, reassess, and choose again.
Instead of “Right,” Choose What’s True for You
At the end of the day, the goal isn’t a perfect decision. It’s a decision that reflects your values, honour your growth, and supports your well-being. So whether you’re deciding between jobs, relationships, places, or possibilities—take the pressure off perfection.
You are allowed to choose.
You are allowed to be unsure.
And you are absolutely allowed to trust yourself.
Want to Talk It Out?
Sometimes, having a neutral space to process your options can be life-changing. Therapy can help you understand not just your choices—but yourself within them.
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